June 7, 2022

You and I
February 14, 1991 – June 6, 2022

You and I, a son of Kris S and the Peruvian mare La Chaposa (by Ups), was foaled thirty-one years ago in Florida. He  went into training with Stanley Hough for Triumviri Stable and won the Cowdin (G2), a leading juvenile stakes. At three, owned by Edward Gann and trained by the great Bobby Frankel, he went on the Derby trail, but as his maturing talents became more apparent he was aimed at shorter distances. He and Chris McCarron won the 1994 Riva Ridge Stakes (G3) at seven furlongs and at four he attained his crowning achievement, the Grade 1 Metropolitan Handicap (the “Met Mile”) with Jorge Chavez. At five, he showed he was also able to win against the best around two turns in the Brooklyn Handicap (G2). I wanted to include a link to watch one of his triumphs, but at the time of writing I can locate none of these races online. Some of you may have seen You and I run across his paddock. To my mind, that was the bigger thrill.

He retired to Old Friends in October 2011 after a stud career mostly of the “useful” variety, but among his children was a shining star whose name was simply, You. One of the excitements of racing in 2002 was the rivalry for three-year-old filly championship between Take Charge Lady, You, and Habibti (who went on to be the mom of Eldaafer). You and I stood at Airdre Stud in Kentucky, then Woodstead Farm in Washington before settling into a more laid-back nearly eleven years at Old Friends.

If you visited him in his early retirement days you may remember him as a member of the “Roberto corner.” You and I had the same paddock throughout his retirement, but for some years it was part of a cluster of paddocks where some of the best descendants of Roberto held court: You and I and Prized were both sons of Roberto’s son Kris S, and Sunshine Forever, the magnificent son of Roberto himself. Sunshine Forever was wise and gracious, Prized was good at taking a carrot from a visitor’s hand and, quicker than thought, biting the empty palm if it lingered. You and I was a little aloof, but he was kind. I never knew him to bite on tours unless a visitor tried to pet him. In that case he did find it necessary to remind the person that he was a stallion.

Though You and I developed minor health issues as he aged, he was robust, didn’t go in for fretting or drama, and took care of himself with solid good sense. Until very advanced old age he thrived without needing supplements, never ate one bite more than he really wanted, and maintained perfect weight. If you had to do stuff in his paddock, like tend his waterer, he never pestered you. When given the respect he expected, he was polite to both his friends and strangers, but he was very much his own horse. You and I was a quiet stallion, but his spirit was entirely independent.

You and I in old age

He did love a good back scratch. He got into those so much that giving him one was one of the greatest joys of being on his part of the farm. Oh, the faces he made! He never, ever wanted you to stop. Bringing him pleasure in that way is what I’ll miss most.

In his more than a decade at Old Friends he gave pleasure to many. I know there are many stories out there, and that those to whom You and I was special will always remember vividly what his presence was like. For you, and for those of you who weren’t fortunate enough to meet him in person, I’ve put together a slide show of photos Laura took of him over the years.


June 8. Wendy Wooley posted on Facebook a reminder of the video of the EquiSport Photos shoot some seven years ago for Maggie Mae Design’s chapeau honoring You and I. Shea and Julien Leparoux with You and I. It’s sweet. Enjoy.

photos by Laura



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3 responses to “June 7, 2022

  1. Judy S. Sims

    It’s never easy to say goodbye but memories and knowing he lived a good, long life and was in the best place he could be when it was his time to pass help somewhat. I am very grateful that I got to contribute to his 31-year old birthday celebration and have a beautiful picture of him. My heart goes out to all involved in his life and especially the wonderful, caring people at Old Friends. R.I.P. You and I and bless your eternal soul. Judy Sims Naples, FL

  2. colmel

    How well I remember the Roberto corner! As small-time breeders, we wanted badly to breed our Ribot granddaughter to a Roberto stallion. Sunshine Forever was retired and we happened on Kris S. standing in Florida. We had a contract to breed to him the spring after Prized hit the scene winning the BC Turf. Just our luck. His stud fee jumped to 10x what we’d been told. Of course, we had to back away. I always felt justified for wanting to breed to him with the likes of Prized and You and I (and so many others) showing what he could sire. I was so grateful to be able to visit with both of those wonderful sons. I could always look back and dream of what might have been.

    • oldfriendsblog

      And then there’s Kudos, also by Kris S. One of those stallions whose race career gave little hint of what he’d do in the breeding shed. It’s a real shame what little chance those kinds of stallions have these days.

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